Family therapy helpful in court
Please thank Meredith Guinness for her article on the MFT program (“Around the Table” Fairfield University Magazine, Spring 2011). A long overdue and heretofore unheard of component of the courtroom, even family law practitioners make huge mistakes in the concept of “the best interests of the child” when couples divorce. The agenda and the appeal of standing out (to earn a living) for counselors and attorneys is part of the problem. Earning a living: fine. Adding to the acrimony is not fine in terms of the human suffering, but invariably it is what one sees.
I graduated from Fairfield in 1959, became a clinical psychologist later in life, having only been degree’d with a Ph.D. for 20 years, but I am so pleased to find lawyers Loren Smith and Michael Becker bringing a ministerial advocacy to a terribly sick system. So often, it is filled with the hubris of persons with narcissistic traits who are apparently trained or coerced by prevailing forces to deny consciousness and compassion in favor of “winning” at all cost.
I am reminded of the very wise judge, who lectured to students of the law, that if anyone were contemplating divorce, they find other means than a courtroom to work through their differences. It is just so uplifting to find a middle-ground approach to the black-and-white of so much of our legal system. Thanks for bringing this important subject forward.
George Nicastro ’59
Good Reasons to be Proud
Mr. Brian Hull’s recent letter to his fellow alumni, “Show Your Pride” (Fairfield University Magazine, Spring 2011), was a well-written and salient plea to encourage alumni donations. He writes wonderfully on the many reasons to have pride, the many benefits which the University derives from said donations, and the powerful message we can send to society at large. I take issue, however, with Mr. Hull’s contention that our alumni giving rates somehow affect our reputation in the outside world.
We need to ask ourselves if it truly matters whether college ranking services matter to how we operate. One need look no further than Mr. Hull’s own letter to see the many wonderful ways in which we are judged:
- Students are drawn from among the top 20% of their graduating class
- Rated among top universities whose students go on to be Fulbright scholars
- Starting salaries surpass those of our closest competitors
- 21% of students are first in their family to attend college
- 79% of students receive financial aid
- The University provides over $45 million in scholarships and grants
These are the numbers against which we should be judged, not our alumni giving rate. And in fact, these are the numbers on which the outside world judges us. Fairfield University and its alumni can hold their heads high.
I respect Mr. Hull’s letter and agree with his overall theme of why alumni should donate. I just hope that he and the other trustees don’t become too consumed by the opinions of college ranking surveys.
Joe Moylan ’60
In the last edition of Fairfield University Magazine we mistakenly reported that Peter Allen ’08 had married. We also misstated the new title of Eileen Rominger ’76 who was named Director of the Division of Investment Management of the Securities and Exchange Commission in Washington, D.C.
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