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Extramarital Affairs

Although monogamy and sexual exclusivity are the expressed cultural norms for the great majority of married, heterosexual couples, the occurrence of adultery and infidelity is widespread (Treas & Giesen, 2000). “In major U.S. survey of married individuals, as many as 25% of married men and 15% of women reported having had an affair at some time in their lives”(Lauman, Gagnon, Michael & Michaels, 1994). Given the extent to which infidelity occurs in the general population, it is likely that counselors of various types and affiliations will encounter couples and individuals who present with this type of problem at some time in their clinical practice (Snyder, 2005). Marriage and Family therapists are often the first to respond to the couple’s request for help following discovery or disclosure of an affair. Brown (2001) suggests that 70% of couples who request marriage counseling do so because the occurrence of an affair precipitated a crisis in their relationship.

Eva Spijkers is a marriage and family therapy graduate student at Fairfield University.

Conversations in Marriage and Family Therapy

Conversations in Marriage and Family Therapy

Date:                    Friday, March 4

Time:                    5-7pm

Location:             Program in Alumni House, reception to follow

Presenter:            Fairfield University Alumna: Trevor Crow

Topic:                   Emotionally Focused Therapy with Couples

Trevor Crow is a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist.  Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is the only clinically proven therapy for couples.  After 20 years of empirical research, researchers have proven the effectiveness of EFT.  For example, research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements after receiving counseling from trained Emotionally Focused Therapists.  EFT is based in a clear, well-defined conceptualization of adult love and marital distress.  Research shows that emotionally fulfilling relationships are fundamental components of both physical and mental health and that emotionally focused counseling can re-establish supportive bonds among couples.  Through a structured use of systemic and experiential interventions, EFT allows couples to expand and shift their view of themselves and their partners.

Strengths of Emotionally Focused Therapy

  • EFT is based on clear, explicit conceptualizations of marital distress and adult love. These conceptualizations are supported by empirical research on the nature of marital distress and adult attachment.
  • EFT is collaborative and respectful of clients combining experiential Rogerian techniques with structural systemic interventions.
  • Change strategies and interventions are specified.
  • Key moves and moments in the change process have been mapped into nine steps and three change events.
  • EFT has been validated by over 20 years of empirical research. There is also research on the change processes and predictors of success.
  • EFT has been applied to many different kinds of problems and populations.

Goals of Emotionally Focused Therapy

  • To expand and re-organize key emotional responses – the music of the attachment dance.
  • To create a shift in partners’ interactional positions and initiate new cycles of interaction.
  • To foster the creation of a secure bond between partners.

This is a wonderful opportunity to learn and network – free of charge!

Please rsvp to or 203-254-4000 x2306

We hope to see you there!